Once upon a time, I hired a life coach to help me sort through thoughts that weren’t serving me, which kept me stuck in my head.
My life has always been centered around health and wellness; however, I struggled in the area of mindset.
I had fears, worries, and felt anxious about illness, what people thought of me, and anything else my brain could imagine.
These feelings were caused by thoughts, beliefs and stories I carried with me for years, which caused needlessly suffering, and kept me disempowered and stuck.
Learning how to choose more empowering language and better thoughts, transformed my life in many positive ways.
In addition to coaching, I discovered different mindset podcasts with topics about relationships, people pleasing, setting boundaries, controlling others, victim mentality, expectations, and so on.
I became addicted to personal development, and couldn’t get enough.
Being aware of my thoughts, and learning incredible life strategies helped me in so many areas of my life, including relationships with friends, relatives, and even my husband!
These powerful lessons lead me to becoming a life coach.
After going through my own transformation, I wanted to help and relate to others who are struggling with like I was.
Below are just a few personal examples of the value I received from coaching.
Do you love to socialize?
Keeping engaged with others, is so important for our well-being.
Personally, I love to socialize and many times I attend happy hour with friends which is fun.
However, I used to get knots in my stomach, worrying about judgement, as soon as I ordered tea or Pellegrino because I don’t drink alcohol.
Now, I proudly wear a badge of honor when I reveal that I don’t drink alcohol or eat sugar.
As an added bonus, I’m also a happy vegetarian!
Instead of people judging me, they seem to be inspired and want to know more about the story behind it.
Speaking of socializing, have you ever been invited to a social function that you had no desire to attend?
Me too, and instead of graciously declining, this people pleaser had the habit of immediately saying “yes”.
I committed without taking time to respond thoughtfully.
At the time, I couldn’t say “no” because I wanted to be liked.
However, the closer it came to the actual event date, the more stressed I got.
Many times I canceled at the last minute, or attended and felt miserable or resentful.
Either way sucked!
Now if someone asks me to do something, if I don’t want to participate, I kindly decline.
If I’m not sure, I ask for the details so I can respond later.
It’s very much appreciated and it seems people still like me even if I do decline.
Not wanting to rock the boat with friends or family, I avoided conflict like the plague.
Usually, if something bothered me, I kept quiet and then later (in my head) I would play out what I should have said, which left me frustrated.
If an important conversation needed to happen, I’d spend precious time worrying about how to approach a subject, or what the reaction might be.
This kept me from engaging in honest conversations and my brain worked overtime trying to control the outcome before I even had the conversation.
If there’s a conversation that truly needs to happen, I speak up.
I have more confidence now and realize I can’t plan the outcome in advance.
It’s OK to be uncomfortable, because that’s when growth happens!
It doesn’t matter if another person reacts positively or negatively, as we are not responsible for others’ thoughts or emotions.
People get to think and feel however they want.
Sometimes the only way to resolve issues is through difficult conversations.
My Life Has Changed In Many Ways…
Through the power of coaching, I’ve learned to put my own self-care first, which allows me to show up authentically.
These are a few of the changes I’ve made in my life and I can help you make them too.
- I worry less about things I have no control over
- The words “should” and “shouldn’t” are only a minimal part of my vocabulary now
- I allow people be themselves without trying to change them
- I’m more confident engaging in difficult conversations
- I proudly brag that for many years, I’m a sugar-free, alcohol-free, vegetarian
- I create healthy boundaries when I need to
- I’m able to say “no” without guilt
- I accept that not everyone likes me, and that’s OK
- I’m responsible for my own thoughts, feelings, and happiness
- I’ve created deeper and more meaningful friendships
- I’m more picky about who I’ll spend time with
- I people please less now, and practice only saying “yes” to things I genuinely want to do
Get To Know Me…
Kim has a life long passion for personal development.
Being a self-proclaimed “wellness detective”, Kim always seeks for ways to improve mental and physical health.
She believes that over a lifetime, how we treat our bodies and minds, affects overall wellness, so it’s crucial to practice self-care daily.
Kim is quite fascinated with the brain, body and mind connection.
She firmly believes that what we choose to think about is as important as what goes into our bodies.
Poor mindset, as well as consuming junk food, drugs and alcohol, and lack of exercise, greatly impacts well-being and can manifest into disease.
Example of What’s Possible!
Through the years, her personal experiences lead her to becoming a wellness blogger, a life coach, and author of her own “Healthy Living Series” kindle books.
She believes in a preventive approach to wellness (lifestyle medicine) as opposed to traditional medicine, which treats disease.
Using humor, curiosity, and encouragement, her goal is to inspire midlife people pleasers, to focus on their own personal development and self-care.
Here are a few of Kim’s favorite quotes:
- “Let food be thy medicine, and medicine be thy food” — Hippocrates
- “I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality” — Byron Katie
- “Those who do not find time for exercise will have to find time for illness” — Earl of Derby
- “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw
- “What we think, we become.” — Buddha
Known as a “get it done” girl, Kim likes a challenge and strives for a sense of accomplishment.
She’s a productive and resourceful problem solver, and an expert on creating healthy lifestyle habits and routines.
Kim has a positive attitude and tries to find the humor, as well as the gift, in everything.
She’s passionate about helping others, blogging and podcasting, and enjoys spending time with family, friends and of course, her pets!
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